Come on, Rescue Me?

"I am not interested!"

"Are you kidding me?"

"You don't know anything!"

"You are lying"

"You don't really care"

"Leave me alone!"

and the list goes on and on and on.

Yes, these are just a few of the things we face here at SIHG following a placement of a child that has been traumatized. These children are often called "throw-aways". Why? We don't really know except no one could take care of them or wanted them. There of course is always a relative somewhere, however, they either don't know where, or the parent left or is deceased. What happens following these events is only a continuation of reasons to be angry or hurt.

This is the second element of care here at Seeds in His Garden, the emotional state of mind. It is often the most challenging, as it takes the most time and patience. The children usually have a six month period when they first arrive of adjustment and a sense of relief; they have a bed and food. They have been rescued.  However, that does not last long, and within a short period, they begin to realize once again that there are deep feelings that they do not know what to do or how to express. Some have take a couple of years to come to a level of resolve. Others take several years for a sense of self-esteem to emerge and anger to dissipate. Some a decade or more are still in bitterness and unresolve, or simply struggle to truly move past a history of confusion. There can be such deep rooted feelings that the only safe place to put them and bring blame is on those that provide an opportunity to move from their initial state of confusion or fears.